Last night I went to the memorial for my dear friend and mentor Michael Gleason, who passed away a few weeks ago. The stories his family and friends told were touching, funny and perfectly captured his personality. They sparked memories for me that I had forgotten about. The highlight (if you can say such a thing about a memorial) was a short film about his life, narrated by Michael himself from an interview conducted with him recently. It was like having him back in the room. I’ll miss that voice, that unique sense of humor, and that hearty laugh. There were a lot of famous people in the room…including TV writers like John Wilder, William Blinn, Jeff Melvoin, Brad Kern & John Wirth… and actors Pierce Brosnan, Stephanie Zimbalist, Kim Lankford, Susan Sullivan, and Jaclyn Smith. It’s remarkable how many lives he touched…and so profoundly. Here is a short essay I wrote for the memorial keepsake that was given out to family members.
I am the writer I am today largely because of Michael Gleason. And in some ways, I am the man I am today because of him, too.
He gave me, and my writer partner William Rabkin, our first TV staff jobs on Murphy’s Law. Michael was warm and encouraging and took an instant, fatherly interest in us. He taught us everything he knew. He brought us into casting, editing, music spotting and every other aspect of production and post-production…and gave us far more responsibility than we deserved. He became our professor of television. Our mentor. Our dear friend.
Michael took us with him to lunch every day at La Serre, where he had his own table marked with his name on a brass plaque and he could schmooze with Glen Larson and all of his other industry friends. We loved it but it was bankrupting us. After a week or two, we told him that we couldn’t afford to eat like that every day. He understood. We kept eating there…but he picked up our check.
Michael wasn’t a perfect person. He had his demons. He knew that and so did I. But he used his mistakes, both personal and professional, as life lessons for me. He gave me some advice on that show that I’ve lived by ever since and have passed on to others:
Don’t get divorced.
You are a writer, first and foremost. Don’t fall in love with your producer credit, no matter how high you climb, or you’ll limit your opportunities. The goal is to get paid to write. The rest is gravy.
Don’t get divorced.
Live below your means. Your show could be cancelled tomorrow… or maybe in five years…but after that you might not work for a long time, or not as often, or not get paid as well. So sock your money away. Don’t buy a Rolls Royce or build a tennis court on a cliff.
Don’t get divorced.
Michael was full of love, creativity, and boundless energy. Nobody. NOBODY, could tell a story like he did. The stories and anecdotes were wonderful, but the real pleasure for me was the obvious joy he took in sharing them. In fact, he taught me how to pitch by insisting that I sell our episodes to the network myself. His notes on my performance would either be: “Less Gleason” or “More Gleason.” And I knew exactly what he meant.
Every time I tell a story, I hear Michael Gleason in my ear. I know that I always will.
3 thoughts on “More Gleason”
Thank you for the essay. Gleason was dead on with “live below your means,” I used to tell my students that “live within your mans” was not good enough, “you must live below your means now-a-days, especially since the typical job lasts less than 5 years.”
I appreciate that you shared what a mentor Mr. Gleason was to you and how you still “hear” him in your ear at times. What you also shared is how to be a mentor and what benefiting from a mentor looks like. Thanks for sharing morsels of Mr. Gleason’s wisdom. Here is what I learned
1. Don’t ever forget you are a writer under any other fluffy titles.
2. Live below your means, so when the writing opportunities get sparse, you’ll be fine.
3. Don’t get divorced.
I forgot the other edict, but I will re-read it. What I appreciated was the respect, appreciation, and fondness for Mr. Gleason and the times you spent together. Mr. Gleason seemed alive and real on the page. Thank you for sharing. My gratitude and condolences to his family and friends. Thank-you, Mr. Goldberg.
I’m sorry for your loss. We all can identify with you as we have all had friends we miss dearly. Yet your loss is also the world’s loss. Please know our prayers are with you.